About Orto Stella

 

About Orto Stella

 

Why is Orto Stella necessary?

It has taken me 7 years to rebuild my life and to rebuild my confidence with little or no support.

I was helped whilst IN the abusive relationship by organisations like Leeway, Women’s Aid and finally thank goodness a great solicitor.

After though, I was left with the huge dilemma of How do I rebuild my life?

Have I actually dealt with the fall out from the abuse – the answer was NO.

 

Abusers can isolate you from friends and family –we call them The Persuaders. So your support group has gone and you are blamed for being the abuser.

The power is that they ensure they have the relationships with ‘your friends/family’ and ensure they put doubt in their minds as to your credibility.

So you have NO support network and your confidence, self-esteem and your feelings of self-worth have been completely destroyed – this isn’t over dramatised, this is how destructive an abusive relationship is.

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Orto Stella exists to:

Provide you with that vital support network. You will be part of a group of like-minded women and you will have a voice and be heard. We will learn through our shared experiences. We will understand that we were victims of domestic abuse and were in no way to blame.

We will have some TLC sessions as we need to feel good about all aspects of ourselves. This is about some “me” time and we will showcase a number of female business owners who can inspire and delight us.

The Springboard programme, which is one of the most important work and personal development programmes I have ever come across, will help you assess where you are at both in your work and personal life. 

It will give you the holisitc (whole person) tools to get to the place you want to and deserve to be.

It will rebuild your confidence and self-esteem and you will fully see that you have enormous worth but also that you will feel empowered to make the positive changes you want and need.

Orto Stella will also provide a range of work ready tools and workshops along with looking at self-employment options. We want you to succeed and your financial success is of paramount importance to help give you the choices you want for you and your families lives.

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We must rederess this:
£1.8bn in lost economic output – why Orto Stella is so important!

Domestic abuse shatters lives – it has to stop!

Orto Stella (Latin for Rising Star) is a Norfolk Charity that has been formed
to empower the working lives of women after they have survived the negative
impacts of domestic abuse.

So say Hi and Welcome to your new support group: Orto Stella – we are delighted to have you and are here to support you and empower your working lives!

 

Is there something, which the victims of domestic violence have in common – some CLUE as to WHY they are abused?

Yes: The one element CONSISTENTLY present in ALL the cases studied, was a violent partner.

 Pat Craven, Living with the Dominator.

 

Of all the calls to Norfolk Police, one-third of them relate to domestic abuse and 90% of victims struggle to enter or regain employment.

Some further horrifying statistics – even if somewhat old they have not really changed

  • In Britain, a woman is killed by a violent partner every three days. London Home Office (2007)
  • Women are three times more likely to be injured when pregnant.  (Refuge 2007)
  • It is estimated that one in four women will experience domestic violence at some time in their lives. (Home Office 2007)
  • At least 750,000 children a year witness domestic violence. Nearly three-quarters of children live in households where domestic violence occurs.  (Department of Health 2003)
  • Children exposed to domestic violence are more likely to have behavioural and emotional problems.  NSPCC (Humphreys, C. 2006)
  • A woman is assaulted on average 35 times before she seeks help.  (Amnesty UK 2006)
  • Affects around 4.6m women (28% of the adult population) in England and Wales in their lifetime, *1 and 13.2% of men.*2.

  • Leads to, on average, two women being murdered each week in England and Wales, and 19 men per year. *2. 

  • Accounts for 14.1% of all court prosecutions. *3

    *1. SafeLives (n.d.) ‘How widespread is domestic abuse and what is the impact?’ (Accessed Nov 2016).
    *2. Office for National Statistics (ONS) (2016) ‘Focus on Violent Crime and Sexual Offences: Year ending March 2015’. (Accessed Nov 2016).
    *3. Women’s Aid (2015) ‘How common is domestic abuse?’ (Accessed Nov 2016). 

THIS IS WHY ORTO STELLA EXISTS

Links to valuable resources

Women in an abusive relationship or anyone with concerns can call free 24 hour National Domestic Violence Helpline run in partnership between Women's Aid and Refuge.